Common saying says: Gold does not have pure gold, the person does not have perfect man. Everybody has respective defect and mistake, the child is more such. Face the child's mistake and inadequacy, what a lot of parents think of above all is blame child. Little imagine, the defect on child body comes from the error at parents mostly. Accordingly, develop for health of body and mind, do father and mother should meditate constantly oneself words and deeds, the system learns knowledge of a few family education, scientific help child overcomes oneself weakness.
Parents is excessive praise: The child is excessive depend on
Praise appropriately be helpful for the child establishing self-confident heart. Some parents always keep praising the child, the result is just the opposite to what one wished, bring about the child to lack self-awareness, every do a bit bagatelle to hope to get praising, be not done otherwise.
Parents is excessive and democratic: The child is too capricious
In a lot of parents teach the family " democratic " government looks overweightly, without giving thought to important matter bagatelle " Xiao Zhi in order to manage " , the result is to manage to was not concluded, the child however by be used to bad. The reason is the child (especially the child with lesser age) the experience with sufficient lack and eye, if be opposite its are beyond the mark and democratic, mother the child very easily, make its become obstinate and capricious, do as one wants. Accordingly, to still for not quite sensible child, contain mandatory colorific education management is indispensable.
Parental opinion is differ: The child refuses to obey certainly
As a result of a variety of advocate objective element, great majority parents is existing on the problem that teachs children more or less have a difference of opinions. Clever parents can avoid child rearward is discussed adequately, in an attempt to is unanimous, raise proper requirement to the child again. However, also have many father and mother for lack of communicate and bigoted, make public brawl before the child even. Its are endangered directly is to make the child feels devoid safety feels, be at a loss. Accordingly, before the child parents should notice to keep unanimous, always do not want to want one-up, each other does not let. If once the child was agreed with only in the home a person said to calculate, no matter use,other one party will say probably, bring artificial barrier to normal domestic education thereby.
Parental overprotection: The child lacks self-confidence
Contemporary family only son female a beloved daughter that is parents, it is grown below undue protection of parents mostly. Alleged and undue protection, it is to show parents is opposite packets everything filial is big to be pulled greatly, monopolize replace, protect a chickling to be like the ground all day to be filial shelter under his assistant like old hen, the business that joins filial in one's power is hated to part with let them do, restrict filial territory completely also the line of sight in oneself even in, yue Leichi of child of for fear that one pace. Exorbitant protects the normal evolution that disturbs child body and mind badly, bring about the child to lack independent viability, socialization is difficult, self-doubt, indecisive, produce negative disposition mood even, lose moral affection and responsibility heart. As contrary as this, some parents always are the character of subjective negative child and travel, the child that likes to use particularly outstanding child and oneself is made quite, transform standard requirement child with exorbitant adult. If things go on like this, the child can feel he is very incompetent, proper pride and self-confident heart are destroyed by merciless ground.
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