Perhaps you had never thought of, oneself speak a word that come casually, can little to the child heart produces how major effect. So, what word can bring the charm that solve a problem and makes the child happy, and what word should be forever of the efface in the cerebra from us?

It is should convey same meaning, the expressive means with your what kind of choice and what kind of term will have very big effect to the child -- even if you think they did not hear you at all occasionally what saying.

In the process that interacts with the child, no matter you are to raise a requirement, give out the answer, perhaps talk about a condition with him, reach compromise. The statement that you use may let the child more be happy to cooperate, more self-confident, but make them possibly also feel frustrate and lose confidence.

So, what word can bring the charm that solve a problem and makes the child happy, and what word should be forever of the efface in the cerebra from us?

1, " yourself will make a decision. 1, " yourself will make a decision..

If you want to let the child do some thing, perhaps stop to do some thing, we suggest you say so. So saying is to let child understanding: He should bear the blame for his behavior.

Cite a case, you can mix to your daughter her young associate says: "You will make a decision, it is to want to stay to play quietly here, still go to the outside? " after 5 minutes, children make a racket as before, you can tell them again: "I knew, look you are to decide to go to the outside. Look you are to decide to go to the outside..

Two very simple words, before you make children clear not only, concern sequentially because of mixing, you also won't be regarded to be by the daughter " bad policeman " -- she can understand clearly very much: It is the decision that herself makes, oneself chose a such results.

2, " mom loves you, but mom does not like you to be done so. But mom does not like you to be done so..

As parents, always be unavoidable to be able to blame the child occasionally. This moment, the most important is to want to part its itself and the person that do a business -- such, your child can know he did a bad thing, but this does not mean oneself is a bad person.

Criticizing the child while tell him " mom loves you " , such doing also can remind yourself, the purpose that criticizes the child is to help him distinguish pair of faults, is not to punish him. If can think so, you are easier also before the child's mistake keep one's hair on.

3, " what are you to want to say actually? 3, " what are you to want to say actually??

When having, dot can be enraged because of making a living or excited and become mood out of control, he cannot say his feeling clear, just cry ceaselessly greatly: "I do not want you! " " I am fed up with you! " in that instant, what pitiful bub can think of exclusively is these words. This moment, with respect to need you help the sentiment that the child understands better and expresses your.
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